What I love and hate about being an average person.

I thought my mind was done thinking but I guess I was wrong. If you’re reading this pretend you’ve found my diary and reading in secret. You don’t want me to catch so your won’t say anything to me.

Anyway I have been an average person my whole life. Average looks, average intelligence, semi average singing voice, average dancing skills. Anyway have you ever had that thought, of what you like or hate about being average that is if you are anyway.

What I love

I love that because I’m an average performer nobody expects much from me. Not from school and not in life so that kinda takes off the pressure that other people go through. I love the fact that I’m not at the top or the bottom so don’t have a lot of attention coming to be. I can fly under the radar and nobody will notice.

What I hate

I hate the fact that I’m average at singing or dancing. I love these two but I can’t do them very well to showcase. I mean yea I can practice to hone my skills but can you just listen. This is me giving my excuses I don’t need your judgment. That’s what as people we start going through our mind when we are being given criticism. I want to be strong enough to say I can do anything, but let’s face it. That’s what parents tell kids so they don’t cry or they can aim high otherwise we all know it’s not true. As a person you can’t do anything you want.

So what can one do

I guess just suck it up and live life, go with where life is taking you and just hope you find some fulfillment along the way. Otherwise if we all were able to do anything we want life would be boring. So I guess what I’m saying is everyone’s life sucks in one way or another.

Self Image

Hey there friend, so i thought of putting an image in today’s post. I looked around in my gallery and found this image my friend took. Yea my best friend went to a gala and took a picture of the meal she had. Just at the look of it without knowing the story behind i’m sure you assumed it had something to do with me.


So i thought of what to talk about today and as always thoughts start coming as i’m writing. I know not very professional revealing how i am getting this process. I thought of sharing on self image. On this journey of self growth in all aspects of our life i thought i should talk about image. In this day and age we have social medias like facebook, instagram, youtube and so forth. Awesome places to share and be part of the globe but also dropping alot of people’s self esteem/value. When we look at the images online all we assume is what the picture is perceiving. Alot of people we can act like it does not affect us when we look at our life not as great as the pictures and videos we are watching, not as shiny as beyonce’s life, not as exciting as the kardashians. We look at the image without the story. This ends up making us feel sad or not very confident when we look in the mirror and not seeing a body like kim kardashian, when we look in the garage and not see a car that’s worth a small country’s gdp. This affects us all, even though the picture above doesn’t have that much of a story than i’m not the one who ate it or took the picture but it is representing everything else that we look at our friends, instagram models, tiktok stars. They all have stories and if you take your time and look at them, or if you have an opportunity ask, I’m sure they will tell you the process. The amount of time it takes them to look the way they look, or have what they do now. Some will even tell you they dont sleep much to keep the type of lifestyle and keep making what they do.

It’s crazy how we want things but most people dont want to do the work. I want to lose weight like i mentioned in my previous post, but i am dreading eating healthy, exercising. Though i know what i need to do i have not gotten myself to do it, its on me. No one can make me get to where i want, no one can help me get the image i want. Oh, and by the way the image above where my bestfriend went to the gala, it was her school where she is studying her masters in MBA where they got invited to celebrate the life of on of the former presidents of united states. To get that image she had to be at the school getting her masters. I might say oh i want to go meet different people of high status or eat that amazing chicken. Its not going to happen because that is not my story nor my path.

As human beings we all have different paths that we take in life. whether we’ll use the longer route or you get lucky and find a shortcut, wait to capture your picture with a story that you get to tell us.

Thank you for your support and sharing your time with me. I hope my insights are helping. Dont forget to like, comment and follow so we dont miss each other on the next post. I’d like to hear your feedback. I love you friend


Hi there, my name is Sheshalom and I would like us to be friends. you see I’m getting on this journey of raising my self value. Most times I forget that I need to value myself higher first for the rest of the world to see my value.

During this process I want to get on the journey with you and see if we can encourage each other. Life becomes easier with its being travelled with others, otherwise it becomes lonely. To tell you the truth I have attempted to start a blog before but I had no idea what to say or do. I have attempted to start different businesses but I ended up not thinking I can do it.

Self doubt is one of the worse things I have always had in the back of my mind. I’m sure I am not the only one who struggles with self doubt. The worse is being so ambitious and knowing that if I can just push myself harder I can do it. What if? There is is, the self-doubt comes running and Sheshalom ends up giving up. Most people we want to quit before we fail entirely. This makes us not to try at all. I don’t know why you are here but I believe you stumbled on this page because you are looking for more in your life. Thats exactly what I want, I could lie and say my life is perfect, i value myself very highly and I make a bunch of money. That would all be lies, as I’m writing I have no job, I have less that $500 to my name, been sleeping at 6 am to wake cup at 2pm so I can just lose time. This is not a life of someone who’s valued herself on a higher level.

So join me on this journey, to learn how to improve my life and of course yours as well. How can I become confident in myself? I am very cautious when it comes to sharing about my life but I want to take this opportunity with you my new friend so you get to know me and I you.