Hello friend, I have one question for you today. Are you all in? If you are a gambling person you are aware of how dangerous going all in can be. I looked up what it means to go all in during a poker game, and it means putting all your remaining chips into the middle of the pot. Apparently it can be effective as a bluffing tool, “All in” betting that your opponent has the right cards for you to win.


I want us to think about our lives for a moment, have you ever gone all in ? Ever got to a point where you call bluff on life, work, relationships, finances? If I’m being honest this is something I haven’t done much either. I always thought I was one of those people who just go head on and do things but sometimes one foot is out looking for another way for me to go. When I want to go all in, I get scared and always try to find another option; a back up plan. What if we just went through life with no back up plan but with just life. Deciding this is what I want to do and I’ll go for it, all in! No other option or direction! I know it’s scary especially when you think of the “what if”.

A lot of us, we don’t want to deal with the anxiety or stress that comes with going all in. For example, I watched one of Elon Musk’s interviews and he mentioned how he took all his profits from PayPal and invested in Tesla or SpaceX (not sure which one). He went all in and even when he was at the brink of bankruptcy, he had to face all the uncertainties, all the negative comments from investors and even some people who didn’t have anything to do with his company. He did not budge until he was successful. All the successful people I have studied about had to make a decision at one point to say this is all I want to go, I’ll go all in till the day I stop breathing. I like studying successful men and women, most of them with self made wealth have similar stories. Steve Harvey has said in interviews how he was homeless for three years after quitting his job to become a comedian. He did not see a place to stay as an obstacle, he went all in on his dreams.

I want you and I to have the same courage and say this is what I want and I’m going all in, facing all the consequences knowing that one day it will pay off! What is holding you back to go all in? What scares you the most? I am afraid I’ll fail and not make my parents proud, heck I am not proud of me right now. So my friend let us go all in, let us not settle for comfort, rather, let’s follow our dreams and passions in life!

Thank you for continuously supporting me, I have always wanted to share my thoughts through writing, podcasts, books,etc. This is my first step to going all in and. sharing what I’m learning. As always please like, comment and share. Love you friend.

Self Empower

Hello friend, I love coffee like most people but unlike most people, I can’t have coffee past a certain time of the day. If I do have coffee past noon, I have a hard time sleeping at night like right now, it’s 4:15 am and I’m writing. I know that when the seasons change my body takes time to adjust and responds with allergies or sinuses. I know that if I keep eating cake or fast food, it will not help me lose weight even though I’m going to the gym. 

I know that if I don’t continue to read more, and search for more knowledge I’ll remain on the same level. I know that I am not the driver in my life but God. I know watching Keeping Up With the Kardashians (now The Kardashians) will make me wonder about myself. I know watching Secret Lives of the Super Rich will make me remember that I am not yet rich. I know that I need to be able to socialize to meet new people. I know that bad company corrupts good character. I know that an idol mind is the devil’s workshop. I know that I am 26 years old. I know that because I didn’t go very far with school I need to work extra hard. I know that becoming rich is not easy. I know that I need to take a shower everyday. I know that Instagram doesn’t always show what exactly is happening in someone’s life. I know that I need to eat to be healthy.

There’s a lot I know about myself, I am pretty sure you have your own list too. Even though I know all this I still sometimes drink coffee late, I forget to have allergy medication ready, I go browse on instagram and feel anxious about my life. I sometimes watch The Kardashians. I even sometimes forget that I am a passenger and God is the driver; the director. There’s a lot we know about ourselves but yet we still forget or just ignore; also, there’s a lot we don’t know about ourselves. I am not entirely sure where I am going with this post but it dawned on me as I couldn’t sleep that how come I keep repeating the same mistakes of which I know the results – it’s like writing the same test over and over and keep failing.

A lot of people, we’re just walking through life without really being awake. Warren Buffet  once said in an interview to not sleep-walk through life. If we keep repeating the same things, it means we are not fully awake. We need to wake up and realize that when winter is coming, we need to get ready with winter jackets, or if you are where it snows be ready with ice scrappers. During summer, be ready with all the light clothes, we know its coming but we always act like we got surprised.

I never used to look at the weather of the day, I relied on my friend to tell me because every morning before school she checked. Once we stopped living together I still never did, and I’d go out and it starts raining. I know I need to check the weather, but because I got my mind to depend on my friend to know about the weather, I never got to train it different. How long are we going to rely on others to tell us its going to rain or the sun is coming out? It is time to empower ourselves, to say, “Sheshalom, get your butt up, don’t drink that coffee, check the weather!” It is time we stop blaming things around us when we are not paying attention. 

Think about the things you know about yourself and try to figure out the things you don’t know. Ask your friends what they think of you and reflect,  empower yourself to do things that you thought you wouldn’t!

Self blueprint

What’s your life design

Hey there friend, so today I wanted to share about blueprints. If you dont know what a blueprint definition is the dictionary meaning says its a design plan or other technical drawings.

I was reading the secret of the millionaire mind and he talked about changing our money blueprint. As human beings our minds adapt to what they’ve been accustomed to our whole lives. So if your family was not good at saving money, or there were a lot of arguments because of money your money design already will be from that experience. So he said for one to be successful one has to change how they perceive money.

I found this concept very interesting and realized that I also haven’t changed or updated most of my blueprints. Things we hear while young, things we experience they come back in our adult life and we wonder how come things are not changing. This is because we haven’t gone back and look at our original blueprint to change the design. To change the design and get it to the level we want now. He goes on and says if from a scale of 1 to 10 problems, 1 being very small and 10 very big problems. If you grow your mindset to the level of 3, and have level 5 problems you’ll definitely feel the pressure of the problem you have. If you grow yourself to level 10 and have a level 5 problem, it wont even be a problem rather an issue you need to get done like brushing your teeth. To get the this level of growth needs a look back to see where your design needs to be updated.

So I was talking to my friends one day I told them when I get rich and they are not I’ll dump them ( lol ), of-course joking. But the point is its okay to remove some of the people that are making you not redesign your life. Yes we all need friends but do you need that friend who looks down on you, who thinks you can’t amount to anything, who when you want to study he/she wants y’all to go clubbing because he knows he’s already failed. No we don’t need those, so going back to search in our life some relationships have to be part of the redesigning blueprints.

It’s okay to say I need to focus right now, give me space. I need to concentrate on this design, making sure every thing is in place.

What blueprint in your life needs updating?

Thank you friend for coming back and experience this journey with me. Dont forget to like and comment, send me your email to be part of the newsletter so we dont miss each other. Love you

Self Image

Hey there friend, so i thought of putting an image in today’s post. I looked around in my gallery and found this image my friend took. Yea my best friend went to a gala and took a picture of the meal she had. Just at the look of it without knowing the story behind i’m sure you assumed it had something to do with me.


So i thought of what to talk about today and as always thoughts start coming as i’m writing. I know not very professional revealing how i am getting this process. I thought of sharing on self image. On this journey of self growth in all aspects of our life i thought i should talk about image. In this day and age we have social medias like facebook, instagram, youtube and so forth. Awesome places to share and be part of the globe but also dropping alot of people’s self esteem/value. When we look at the images online all we assume is what the picture is perceiving. Alot of people we can act like it does not affect us when we look at our life not as great as the pictures and videos we are watching, not as shiny as beyonce’s life, not as exciting as the kardashians. We look at the image without the story. This ends up making us feel sad or not very confident when we look in the mirror and not seeing a body like kim kardashian, when we look in the garage and not see a car that’s worth a small country’s gdp. This affects us all, even though the picture above doesn’t have that much of a story than i’m not the one who ate it or took the picture but it is representing everything else that we look at our friends, instagram models, tiktok stars. They all have stories and if you take your time and look at them, or if you have an opportunity ask, I’m sure they will tell you the process. The amount of time it takes them to look the way they look, or have what they do now. Some will even tell you they dont sleep much to keep the type of lifestyle and keep making what they do.

It’s crazy how we want things but most people dont want to do the work. I want to lose weight like i mentioned in my previous post, but i am dreading eating healthy, exercising. Though i know what i need to do i have not gotten myself to do it, its on me. No one can make me get to where i want, no one can help me get the image i want. Oh, and by the way the image above where my bestfriend went to the gala, it was her school where she is studying her masters in MBA where they got invited to celebrate the life of on of the former presidents of united states. To get that image she had to be at the school getting her masters. I might say oh i want to go meet different people of high status or eat that amazing chicken. Its not going to happen because that is not my story nor my path.

As human beings we all have different paths that we take in life. whether we’ll use the longer route or you get lucky and find a shortcut, wait to capture your picture with a story that you get to tell us.

Thank you for your support and sharing your time with me. I hope my insights are helping. Dont forget to like, comment and follow so we dont miss each other on the next post. I’d like to hear your feedback. I love you friend

What is your why?

Hey there my friend, i’m sure by now you are getting comfortable getting to know me as i am of sharing. I hope my messages, stories, motivations touch that one person who really needs it. If you are here that means this is for you.

Anyway to day i want to ask what is your why? The question most people we have not been able to answer is why. Why do i wake up everyday, why do i go to the job i hate, why do i want to lose weight, why do i want to make more money. Its a question that seems like needs a simple answer but yet most peope haven’t been able to answer. Yes, i believe there’s a reason and purpose why everything happens in life and if you are a believer like me you know God has a purpose for you. Then you ask what is it, why did He put me here. My job sucks, finances i’m going hand to mouth. why!!!!!

To tell you the truth i haven’t figured out most of my why questions either. On this journey that i have taken i am working to getting to answer mine. So my friend let’s help each other to get to that point. The point where when you wake up knowing exactly why God put you here. I used to have alot of pressure when i see my friends or other people who seemed to have figured out there why. But as it turns out not many people know all their answers to the question. A few years a go i went on a journey of weightloss and i was able to lose quite alot of it. Almost 50 pounds gone, my reason was to fit in clothes that i saw where cute that summer. I worked so hard that i managed in a few months, i had a why answer. But guess what, a few months later during winter season i got it all back and its been hard ever since to lose it again. I had the answer but it was not strong enough to keep motivating me to keep on working on my health. This goes to tell you that answering the question should not be taken lighly. You want to have a strong enough reason, not just a seasonal one otherwise you’ll be back to zero.

I like reading and my most recent book i have read is the compound effect by Darren Hardy. He talks alot about reaching goals, financial, life in general. He said to start a new habit you need to be patient. I am guilty of just going full speed when i want to start something new and eventually get tired because i took on alot. He talks about compounding in habits aswell as in finace. Good habits can be compunded in a period of time and so do bad ones. So when we answer our why we need to be patient and start training our minds again, compounding the new ideas, habits till one day will realise it all comes natural. I’ll make an example of one of the greatest investors in the world warren buffet. I want to learn and get to his level, so i got into studying investing and got carried away by gimmicks like day trading, options trading which its not investing. I compounded the wrong information and forgot my why. Warren buffet got where he is after compounding his knowledge since he was 10 years old. Thats a very long time and just shows to tell how powerful it is to compound over time.

So whats your why? Think for a moment, write down any reason you think thats it. look at it and think is this why a seasonal one or a forever one. We want to grow for our whole lifetime. Atleast thats what i want, i dont know what you want but i believe that whatever it is, with patience, purpose and zeal you can do anything.

Anyway i’ll finish with my favorite verse, philipians 4:13 “i can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.”

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